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“Stop thinking of people who are sober or not. That’s a duality that we have to get over.”  -Scott Kiloby  A Problematic Approach The abstinence model of recovery isn’t working – and hasn’t been for a long time. Traditional treatment centers, the criminal justice system, and the mental health field are shifting as experts recognize […]

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“Passing thoughts can become toxic beliefs. Beliefs become dogma. And sometimes, especially for those carrying around the addict identity, dogmas become death sentences.” Unconsciousness and Toxic Beliefs When we start to experience true awareness, it becomes clear that this is our natural state. We also begin to notice how radically off-track unconsciousness has driven our emotional, […]

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  At least 60 percent of North Americans have experienced at least one traumatic event in their life. Many of those people will go on to develop PTSD which can be debilitating, leading to stress, job loss, family issues and the inability to enjoy life. Unfortunately, the majority of those affected will not seek help, […]

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  THE STIGMA OF ‘USING’ Our society has a long tradition of judging and vilifying addicts. This stigma is apparent in everything from the shame inherent in the 12 step model to the approach of our criminal justice system. The New Model of Recovery is about approaching addiction from a totally different perspective. For too […]

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If you are a type four on the Enneagram, you may identify with the ‘Individualist’ identity. Fours tend to see themselves as tragically unique; possessing a fundamental difference from others. This can translate into isolation and loneliness. Consequently, a common deficiency developed by type fours is the “I’m Alone” story. Because a core desire of […]

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  There are many opinions on whether addiction is a disease. It certainly runs in families and is seemingly hereditary, but does that mean a person is destined to become an addict? The answer is no, as we have free will, but that doesn’t mean some people are more predisposed to becoming addicted to a […]

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If you are a Type 3 on the Enneagram  or ‘The Achiever’, the “I’m not good enough” story may resonate particularly strongly with you. Threes are always taking on new challenges and projects, and may find it hard to just sit and be. The drive for accomplishment is ever-present. Oftentimes threes equate value with success. […]

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The core deficiency story, which varies from person to person, lies at the true heart of our suffering. Our egos usually develop these stories when we are children. They become a sort of operating system that takes over when we experience a lack of acceptance, support, or love. This lack is what we refer to […]

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As the opioid overdose crisis rages on, it has become apparent that the old ways of thinking and treating addiction are simply falling short. The work of leading researchers in the field of recovery, like Dr. Gabor Maté, is challenging our ideas about substance abuse and addiction.    Newly released statistics show an alarming trend: […]

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We can’t express how happy, inspired and honored we are at the Kiloby Center for Recovery to be chosen by the Volunteers of America (Greater LA) to bring our mindfulness approach to thousands of people who would not otherwise have access to mindfulness. Our mindfulness approach brings peace, well-being and freedom and dissolves and uproots […]

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